Myths about suicide

Talking about suicide can feel frightening, and many of us have absorbed ideas about it that simply aren't true. Understanding the facts can help you respond with confidence instead of fear when someone you care about is struggling.

What it is

Myths about suicide are widely believed but inaccurate ideas that shape how we think, talk about, and respond to suicidal thoughts. These myths matter because they can silence people who are struggling, and stop those around them from stepping in. Clearing them up is one of the most useful things any of us can do.

Signs to notice

Some of the most common myths worth unlearning:

• "Asking about suicide puts the idea in someone's head." In reality, asking directly and calmly does not increase risk. It often brings relief, because the person no longer has to carry the thought alone.
• "People who talk about suicide won't actually do it." Talking about it should always be taken seriously. It's often a sign someone is struggling and looking for a way to say so.
• "Suicide happens without warning." There are frequently signs beforehand, such as withdrawal, hopelessness, giving away possessions, or a sudden calm after a period of distress, even if they aren't always obvious.
• "It only affects people with a mental illness." While mental health difficulties raise the risk, suicidal thoughts can affect anyone under enough pain or pressure, including people who appear to be coping well.
• "Once someone decides, there's nothing you can do." Suicidal crises are often temporary and can pass with the right support. Many people who survive an attempt go on to say they're glad they didn't die.
• "Talking about it will make things worse." Calm, caring conversation is protective, not harmful.

What helps

• Educate yourself and the people around you with accurate information, not assumptions.
• If you're worried about someone, ask directly: "Are you having thoughts of suicide?" Directness is kind, not dangerous.
• Listen without judgement, and take what you hear seriously, even if the person downplays it afterwards.
• Avoid assuming someone is "fine" just because they seem to be coping outwardly.
• Encourage and support professional help rather than trying to manage a crisis entirely alone.

When to reach out for help

If someone shares suicidal thoughts with you, or if you notice warning signs like hopelessness, withdrawal or talk of being a burden, don't wait to see if it passes. Reach out for support the same day. If you are having these thoughts yourself, please know that help is available and that reaching out is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Getting help in South Africa

Cleared Mind's EAP counsellors are available for confidential support if you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts. You don't have to know exactly what to say - they can guide the conversation with you.

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If you or someone else is in immediate danger, reach out now. SADAG Suicide Crisis Helpline (24h): 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393. SAPS 10111, ambulance 10177, GBV Command Centre 0800 428 428.