Caregiver support journey

Caring for someone you love can be one of the most meaningful things you ever do, and one of the most exhausting. This journey exists to make sure you are cared for too.

What it is

The caregiver support journey is a series of resources and sessions for members who are looking after a family member with a chronic illness, disability, ageing-related needs or a mental health condition. Caregiving often happens quietly, alongside a full-time job, with little recognition of the toll it takes. This journey covers the practical side, such as finding respite and navigating healthcare systems, and the emotional side, including grief, guilt and burnout, that so often go unspoken in caregiving roles.

Signs to notice

• Constant tiredness that does not lift with rest
• Neglecting your own health appointments, sleep or meals
• Feeling resentment towards the person you are caring for, followed by guilt
• Withdrawing from friends, hobbies or anything unrelated to caregiving
• A sense of grief for the relationship or life you had before, even while the person is still alive
• Feeling invisible, unsupported or like no one understands what your days involve

What helps

• Naming caregiver burnout as real and valid, not selfish or ungrateful
• Building in small, non-negotiable pockets of rest or activity that are just for you
• Asking for and accepting practical help from family, friends or community, even in small pieces
• Looking into respite care or day programmes so you are not carrying every hour alone
• Connecting with other caregivers who understand the specific weight of this role
• Allowing space for complicated feelings, love, grief, frustration and guilt can all be true at once
• Keeping your own medical and mental health checks up to date, not just the person you care for

When to reach out for help

Please reach out if you feel constantly overwhelmed, physically unwell from stress, or if you notice signs of depression such as persistent low mood, hopelessness or loss of interest in things you used to enjoy. Caregiver burnout is a recognised and serious risk, and support exists specifically for people in your position, not only for the person you are caring for.

Getting help in South Africa

Cleared Mind's EAP counsellors offer confidential support for caregivers, including help finding local respite and community resources. SADAG's Mental Health Line is available on 011 234 4837 for general support. If you are ever in crisis, the SADAG Suicide Crisis Helpline is available 24 hours a day on 0800 567 567 or SMS 31393.